When stakes are high, the human mind will rush to fill in the gaps of information about reality with an imagined projection of your very own personal worst case scenario.
There is only one thing less intelligent than worrying: Worrying over something you aren’t even certain is happening.
After catching a glimpse of the frown on a loan officer’s face as he reviews your paperwork, your mind could quickly assume, “I didn’t qualify for the loan,” followed by a pit in your stomach.
An email from a boss that says, “See me in my office in an hour,” can turn into, “I must’ve made a mistake,” followed by a rush of hot shame throughout your body.
“He didn’t answer his phone last night, he came home late, and now this morning doesn’t want to have sex,” is faulty deductive reasoning for a hasty conclusion: he must be cheating.
Keep a record of how often these thoughts are correct. Track even the inconsequential ones, like your shock when you meet someone you’d previously only interacted with via telephone – they look nothing like how you imagined them!
Your thoughts will be correct sometimes, and most of the time they won’t be. You will be astounded to discover how much of your life is governed by a voice in your head that is rarely right about what it tells you. You believe in it, yet it is untrustworthy.
Paradoxically, how sweet it is to finally realize how much we don’t know, about people, their thoughts, their motivations, their intentions.