“Forgive them father for they know not what they do,” points to the truth that all perpetrator-like behavior comes from a belief that, “I was just wronged; I was just a victim or am about to be victimized.”
Thus, in their mind, their behavior was totally justified. In their mind, there was no other way to handle the situation except to act out.
It is great progress, and wonderfully healing, to awaken and see that this is reality, that this is the truth that’s at play in the hearts of your fellow humans…
The next level of awakening, of course, is to notice when the dynamic is at play within you….
The religious addicts I coach – those who were abused by someone’s interpretation of the Bible – mistake this text to mean, “Let bygones be bygones.” So they close their eyes in the midst of verbal, emotional/psychological or spiritual “abuse,” dissociate and remain in harmful situations too long.
Of course, it is often not the situation that is harmful; it their interpretation of it. The harm is born when they misinterpret what is a frightened, self-defensive human being acting out his pain, as a hostile & scary perpetrator.